Don’t Let Insecurity Steal Your Happiness

What are you insecure about? I bet when you read that question – a few things pop right into your mind without any effort. I know that, because it happens to me, too.  And that is truly such a shame.

            I’ve got another question for you. What do you let your insecurities control? I know… this question feels like a punch to the gut. But, hear me out. If you don’t feel like a million bucks in the brand new dress you bought for girls night, do you stay home? Are you afraid to speak your mind in groups because you’re scared of what people might think? If you don’t look exactly like an instagram model in your swimsuit, do you keep your cover up on and sit on the sidelines watching everyone have a good time at the family bbq? Are you nervous to live your life the way you want to because you worry about the thoughts of other people?

            I get it and I hear you. Really I do. I have let insecurity control too much of my life. I feel like I have done SO MUCH WORK to try and get a hold of insecurities I struggle with, but they still rear their ugly head sometimes. And it really shakes me up. It feels hard to pick myself back up when insecurity makes it’s unwanted appearance. But when it feels tough to work through, I immediately think about this podcast I listened to last year.

            It was the Rise Together Podcast. This was while ago, and Rachel and Dave Hollis were still doing this podcast together. They had a guest on, Amy Porterfield. If you don’t know who Amy Porterfield is, she is amazing. And such a light. On the podcast, they were chatting about body image and insecurities that can come with that. And if I am being honest, I don’t remember who said it, but one of them said something along the lines of “ You have to give the world who you are in this very moment. You have to choose to LOVE the you that you are now and where you are going.” And it hit me like a ton of bricks. What powerful words. To love where you are and who you are regardless of what society thinks. Kinda goes right along with that quote but Caroline Caldwell “In a society that profits from self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.”

            The society we live in will give you a million reasons to feel insecure in yourself. But I am hoping we can work on quieting that loud voice together. Think about the amazing qualities you have. You are an amazing friend. You are a great partner. You are a caring person. You have a servants heart. You stand up for what you believe in. You are confident and competent. You have great energy. You choose to see the good in people. You are a hard worker. You are a protector. You are selfless. You are happy. You are healthy. You are MORE THAN ENOUGH.

            Can you imagine if we chose to find our identity in those qualities instead of our insecurities? Oh my gosh, what a world we would live in. We would feel more empowered to be our authentic and real selves without fear.

            So let’s work together to build that kind of atmosphere for ourselves. And for the women that come after us. You truly never know who you are inspiring by just being yourself. – insecurities and all.

XO,

Kelly